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Welcome to With Compassion, where deep-feeling, deeply sensitive people come for compassionate online coaching.
I am Victoria Matthews-Patel,
a Self-Worth and Wellbeing Coach.

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I can be your coach, your cheerleader and your guide as you begin to treat yourself with the respect and care you deserve.
As you truly get to know glorious you and realise how wonderful you are, possibly for the first time in your life.

It is only by really knowing yourself that you can develop true self-worth.

 

I CAN SUPPORT YOU TO -

- Reduce the pressure you put on yourself and bring lightness, balance, peace, fun, emotionally healthy relationships and true happiness into your life.

- Move from people-pleasing to setting boundaries.

- Put yourself first whilst still being able to care for others. 

- Be kind to yourself.

- Discover and communicate your wants and needs.

- Develop a solid sense of self and self-worth.

- Live life in a way that works for you.

 

AT WITH COMPASSION, WE GET TO KNOW OURSELVES BY  
- Acknowledging how life is for us.
- Finding our voice and speaking our truth.
- Acknowledging how we feel about ourselves.
- Becoming mindful of the behaviours we have adopted during our lifetime that are not good for us. These may include people-pleasing, being hyper-independent, perfectionism, black and white thinking and masking who we are to try to fit in or get a sense of belonging.
- Learning how to change those behaviours.
- Learning to be gentle and compassionate with ourselves.

 

IN OUR WORK TOGETHER YOU WILL DISCOVER WHO YOU ARE SEPARATE FROM 

- Your roles in life

- Any family members who may have played a dominant and challenging part in your life.

- The people who made you feel like there was something wrong with you.

- The people who made you feel like you had to change or prove yourself to be worthy of love. 

- The expectations of others and the criticism and judgement you have experienced.

The focus in our work together is not on what happened to you, what was lacking for you, or the people that made you feel badly about yourself, but we will fully acknowledge the impact on you and on all aspects of your life.

In our work together the focus is on you. GLORIOUS YOU.

You matter and you deserve it.

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I thought that I was broken and needed to be fixed.

I have since learned that I was not broken.

I did not need to be fixed.

I was hurting deeply and in need of healing.

WHY WORK WITH ME?

As well as being a coach, I am a trauma survivor and thriver.

Compassion is my middle name. It is a huge part of me and all aspects of my life and work.

I am deeply sensitive and an empath. I get how tough it can feel to experience things so deeply.

I am a Trauma-Aware Coach and am currently undertaking my Trauma-Informed Training with Lou Lebentz at The Voyage Academy.

I understand the impact trauma has on mental and physical health, wellbeing and self-worth.

I understand the impact trauma has on the way you experience life and relationships.

I understand the pain of feeling rejected and of feeling like you don't belong.

I am neurodivergent and respect diversity and the individuality of neurodivergence.


I can proudly say that I now know who I am.

I know my true worth and my value.
I want this for you too.

Let's work together.

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LET'S HAVE A CHAT
I offer a free 30 minute chat during which we can talk about how things are for you and find out if working together is a good fit for both of us.
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PODCAST APPEARANCES

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SUMMIT APPEARANCES

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