Victoria Matthews-Patel
Hello and welcome to With Compassion.
I am Victoria Matthews-Patel,
a Trauma-Informed Coach, enhancing the wellbeing of Autistic and Audhd women and being their guide on their voyage of self-discovery.
I can be your coach, your guide and your ally as you explore who you truly are.
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I CAN SUPPORT YOU TO -
- Reduce the pressure you put on yourself and bring lightness, balance and stability into your life.
- Befriend your brain and your nervous system. I promise you that they aren't against you; they are trying to protect you.
- Discover and communicate your wants and needs.
- Develop a solid sense of self and of who you truly are.
- Live life in a way that works for you.
YOU GET TO BE YOUR TRUE SELF BY
- Acknowledging and validating your experiences.
- Exploring how you do life.
- Discovering your talents and your passions.
- Becoming mindful of the behaviours you may have adopted during your lifetime. These may include people-pleasing, being hyper-independent, perfectionism, black and white thinking and masking who you are to try to fit in or get a sense of belonging.
- Learning how to change those behaviours.
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In our work together the focus is on you.
You, who deserves to be seen, heard, understood and acknowledged for the wonderful human you are.
GLORIOUS AND UNIQUE YOU.
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Every human being has a true authentic self.
Trauma is the disconnection from it and healing is the reconnection to it.
Gabor Mate
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WHY WORK WITH ME?
As well as being a coach, I am a trauma survivor and thriver.
I am neurodivergent (Audhd), self-diagnosed at the age of 51.​
I get that feeling of not knowing who you are anymore.
Of morphing yourself into who you think others want you to be.
Of changing yourself to try to be acceptable, to try to fit, to get some sense of belonging.
Of denying your own wants and needs, and even not knowing what they are due to the level of masklng.
I am deeply sensitive and an empath. I get how tough it can feel to experience things so deeply.
Compassion is my middle name. It is a huge part of me and all aspects of my life and work.
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I am Trauma-Informed
I have lived experience of Complex PTSD and trauma healing.
I understand the impact trauma has on mental and physical health, wellbeing and your sense of self.
I understand the impact trauma has on the way you experience life and relationships.
I understand the daily trauma experienced by neurodivergent people.
I understand the pain of feeling rejected and of feeling like you don't belong.​
I have been on this voyage of self-discovery and self-healing.
I am still on it.
I will always be on it.
But, I can now communicate my needs and advocate for myself.
I live life in a way that aligns with my wants and needs, and my values.
I know who I am and how I do life.
I know my value.
I feel like I belong, after 50 years of not belonging.
I want this for you too.
Let's work together.