WHAT IS COACHING "WITH COMPASSION"?
At With Compassion, we work together as two equal human beings.
I am an understanding, accepting, passionate and genuine coach that puts you at the heart of everything.
The you who got messages that she wasn't enough, or was too much.
The you who doesn't like herself very much.
The you who thinks she is not enough. That she has never been enough.
The you who thinks she is the problem.
The you who has always thought she is the problem.
The you who thinks that if she works harder, gives more of herself and does more, she will be worthy of love.
The you who puts herself last.
The you who feels depleted.
Our sessions will be gentle, caring and warm, with some Mind-Body techniques to get you out of your overthinking head.
Through compassionate listening, no judgement and support, we will discover the real you and your true worth and value.
The first coaching session is an exploration in which I will find out how life is for you at the moment, and understand things from your perspective.
As your coach I will be your cheerleader, your guide and your accountability partner.
I will believe in you, support you and nurture you.
I will shine a light on you and see you as the unique individual that you are.
I will walk alongside you as you change behaviours that no longer serve you and begin to see your self-worth and your value.
We will approach everything at a pace that you are comfortable with and with absolute compassion.
HOW DO WE LOSE OUR SENSE OF SELF AND SELF-WORTH?
How people in our lives treated us, and made us feel, and difficult life events affect our sense of self and our self-worth. These can include a challenging relationship with family, separation and estrangement from family, a feeling of not fitting in or belonging, difficult close relationships, separation or divorce, how we feel during the peri-menopause and menopause, a diagnosis of neurodivergence (formal or self-diagnosis), serious illness, along with other *traumas we have experienced.We take on behaviours and roles to help us cope with life. We become the "good girl", the people pleaser, the perfectionist, the highly independent woman.These behaviours are focused on getting our worth, love and feelings of acceptance from others, further moving us away from ourselves.
WHAT IS A TRAUMA?
You will hear me refer to trauma so I want you to have a definition to refer to. A trauma is a distressing event where you feel scared, unsafe, rejected, humiliate, invalidated, unsupported, powerless or ashamed, and how you are affected by it.
Trauma is personal and traumatic events can cause long-lasting harm to your health, thought processes and behaviours. The effects can happen quickly or a long time afterwards. Lack of emotional attachment in childhood is trauma. It’s about what happened as well as what was lacking.
WHAT IS A TRAUMA-AWARE COACH?
A trauma-aware coach holds an awareness and understanding of what trauma is, where it comes from, how it manifests and the impact it has on the way we experience life and relationships.
If you require skills or practices beyond knowledge and awareness I would urge you to consult a trauma-informed professional.
There is a lot of talk on social media, within coaching and in self-help books about mindset, and changing your mindset.
MY COACHING IS NOT ABOUT CHANGING YOUR MINDSET. WHY?
I echo the words of psychotherapist, Lou Lebentz, of Trauma Thrivers who says –
“Purely mindset, motivational or cognitive-only coaching doesn’t tend to work well with trauma, certainly not in the long term. In fact, it can actually make clients feel worse especially when they’re struggling to shift their behaviour or their thinking. If someone has trauma, the feeling of failure from not being able to change “their mind” will additionally compound the shame that is already so prevalent within them.”
Your behaviours, ways of thinking and your sense of self come from your past. What happened to you, things that were said to you, their impact on you, and also things that were lacking.
You didn’t choose your behaviours and your ways of thinking. But they can be understood, and they can be changed.
It takes gentle work, care and compassion. It takes a trauma-aware approach.
CONNECTION AND COMMUNTITY ARE AN IMPORTANT PART OF MY WORK.
Because we heal and thrive in community.
You may not know what it feels like to be able to speak freely, to be listened to, and to be supported without judgement.
You may not know what it feels like to have emotionally safe, consistent and reliable connection.
You may not know what it feels like to feel emotionally safe enough to be fully you.
To not have to wear some sort of mask to be accepted or to fit in your family, within your friendship groups, at work or in society.
But these things are possible when you connect with the right people. With like-minded women.
Something incredible happens when we speak up and others hear us.
Something incredible happens when we connect with like-minded people.
Things seem more possible.
Life seems more possible.
We can begin to make sense of our story in the presence of others who share theirs.
We heal in sharing our voices and our stories.
We heal in our shared experiences.
Being in community with glorious women at different ages and stages of their life can be so empowering.
WHAT ARE THE PAYMENT AND REFUND TERMS AND CONDITIONS FOR THE CIRCLES AND FOR 1-2-1 COACHING?
a) Monthly Circles
Payment must be made on booking via Eventbrite. Early bird offers may be available for a limited time.
There are no refunds but if you contact me 48 hours before the Circle, I will move your paid space to another Circle.
If I am unable to run the event for any reason I will contact you to arrange your place on another Circle.
b) Weekly Circles Programme
Payment is via BACs transfer on booking.
You have a 7 day cancellation/cooling off period from the date of entering into the contract for the Weekly Circles. Within this period of time, if you change your mind, you will receive a full refund on any monies paid up to that point.
I require notice of cancellation via email: email@example.com and it must be within the cancellation period outlined above.
If services have been agreed to and provided within the cancellation period, you/the client must pay for those services received.
No refunds will be given for missed sessions.
When signing up for the weekly circles you are paying for the full programme. Refunds will not be given if you do not complete the programme of sessions.
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Fees are payable at the point of booking (first session) or 48 hrs in advance (subsequent sessions) via BACS transfer to confirm the session.
If I have to cancel a session that you have already paid for, due to illness or an unexpected event, and we are both unable to arrange an alternative suitable time/date, then you will receive a full refund of your session fee.