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About Me

Victoria Matthews

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Neurodivergent Woman and Trauma-Informed Coach

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Professionally

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I’m a Trauma-Informed Coach specialising in supporting deeply sensitive and neurodivergent women to navigate the complexities of relationships.

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I bring together professional expertise, lived experience, and deep compassion to create spaces where women feel seen, supported, and empowered to make sense of their experiences in relationships and thrive.

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My professional training includes:

  • Deep Dive Trauma Training with Lou Lebentz at The Voyage Academy

  • Coaching Training with the Co-Active Training Institute

  • Support Circles Facilitation with Sally Golightly

  • Gather + Belong Circle Design and Facilitation Programme with Catherine Asta

  • Mental Health First Aid with MHFA England

 

​In 2023, I published my first book, It’s Not Just You: Making Sense of Life and Thriving After Growing Up in an Emotionally Dysfunctional Family.

 

Before training as a coach, I spent 25 years working in education across mainstream and charity sectors, as a teacher and dyslexia and literacy specialist.

Throughout my career, I’ve been dedicated to teaching, supporting and coaching people of all ages, with a strong focus on advocating for and championing neurodivergent children and adults.

This deep, long-standing commitment to inclusion, understanding, and individualised support naturally evolved into my current work as a trauma-informed coach where I continue to hold space for people to be seen, heard, and supported in ways that honour who they truly are.


I am neurodivergent (Audhd) and I work from a neurodivergent-affirming and inclusive perspective.

I am proud to be a member of the Association for Coaching and I adhere to its quality and standards.

Victoria Matthews-Patel trauma-informed coach for neurodivergent and highly sensitive women relaxing and journalling on her bed

Personally

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I’m a warm, compassionate, open-hearted, and chatty person.

I’m also a deep thinker and deeply sensitive; someone who feels things fully and notices the small details.

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I love meaningful time with the wonderful people in my life as much as I treasure time on my own.

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My passions include spending time in nature with my dog, listening to music and podcasts, going to the theatre, concerts, and the cinema, and the vibrancy and anonymity of big cities.

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​I’m a lover of words and creativity. Books, audio books, writing, journalling and stationery bring me real joy.
 

To soothe my nervous system, I turn to walking, Qigong, Yoga Nidra, and singing in a choir; practices that ground me and bring me back to myself.​

My neurodivergence​

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At the age of 51 I discovered that I am autistic and have ADHD (AuDHD).

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Embracing my neurodivergence has been a powerful part of my healing. Although it initially threw my world up in the air it has also lead to deep self-acceptance, enhanced self-worth, deep connection with like-minded women and clarity about what I want and need in connection and relationship with others.

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How you can work with me​

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  • 1:1 Coaching – Person-centred, compassionate sessions online and via email.

  • Support Circles – Supportive, trauma-informed spaces grounded in compassion and community.​​​

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You can read more about my healing and how I went from surviving to thriving in my book:
It's Not Just You: Making Sense of Life and Thriving After Growing Up in an Emotionally Dysfunctional Family.

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