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Victoria Matthews-Patel
WHO AM I?
PROFESSIONALLY
I am a Wellbeing Coach and Mentor (Coach Training with Co-Active Training Institute) for Neurodivergent Women.
I am Trauma-Informed, having trained with the magnificent Lou Lebentz at The Voyage Academy in 2023-2024.
I am also a Circles Facilitator and successfully completed the Creating Circles course with Sally Golightly in 2023.
My first book, It's Not Just You, Making Sense of Life and Thriving After Growing Up in an Emotionally Dysfunctional Family. was published in 2023.
I worked in education, in the mainstream and charity sectors, for 25 years. I started as an Early Years teacher but specialised in literacy and dyslexia (Postgraduate Diploma in Dyslexia and Literacy, 1999) after witnessing children struggling with the way they were being taught in the mainstream school setting. I worked for Dyslexia Institute/ Dyslexia Action for a number of years, as a support tutor and then as CPD Programme Manager.
My work across my 25 year career has involved teaching, supporting, training, managing, mentoring and coaching people of all ages, especially championing neurodivergent children and adults.
I am neurodivergent (Audhd) and I work from a neurodivergent-affirming and inclusive perspective.
I am proud to be a member of the Association for Coaching and I adhere to its quality and standards.
PERSONALLY
I am compassionate, warm, open-hearted and chatty.
I am a deep thinker and I feel things deeply.
I love to laugh.
I love time with my people and time on my own.
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My passions are:
Spending time with the wonderful people in my life.
Going out into nature with my dog, Murphy.
Going to the theatre, concerts and cinema.
The vibrancy, anonymity and buzz of a big city and the peace and beauty of nature.
Bookshops - preferably ones with a cafe! - and reading
Stationery, writing and journalling
Qigong and Yoga Nidra
Singing in a choir
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MY SELF-DISCOVERY
I went on my own self-discovery journey after completely losing my sense of self and having a breakdown in 2018, after years of ill physical and mental health.
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During my healing, professional support, reading and research and connection with other like-minded people helped me uncover and process years of attachment and relational trauma, and bullying from people in my life. Trauma that impacted my physical and mental health for years.
You can read about my trauma healing and how I went from surviving to thriving in my book, "It's Not Just You".
The realisation that I am autistic and have ADHD three years into my trauma healing (self-diagnosed at 51) added a whole new dimension to my self-discovery voyage.
It threw everything that I knew about myself up in the air at first, but exploring my neurodivergence has really brought me home to my true self, and has lead to self-acceptance and true self-worth.
HOW CAN YOU WORK WITH ME?
Through compassion-focused and bespoke 1-2-1 online coaching and mentoring on Zoom.
Through compassion-focused Wellbeing Circles.
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